Monthly Archives: October 2012

Wedding Planning and Including Your In-Laws

So, we’re going to assume a few things here first before we get down and dirty on the topic of weddings and in-laws.

1. Your spouse’s parents are still alive.
2. Your spouse has a good (enough) relationship with his parents.
3. Your spouse’s parents are going to be part of the wedding day in any capacity.

That said, you may be wondering how you can include your in-laws in your wedding planning if you and your spouse have a desire to do so. The laws of, oh I don’t know, nature, sometimes dictate that the groom’s parents may pay for a few things here and there — or nothing at all — and just show up to the wedding. But in an effort to maintain a healthy relationship with your in-laws, it might be nice to include them in some aspects of your wedding planning, which may serve as an investment for your future positive relationship with them.

Assuming there’s already a drama-free relationship in place, I think in-laws tend to feel like they want to be included without overstepping bounds. They’re kvelling for the pending nuptials and are just as excited as your parents might be, but aren’t sure how much involvement they should have. So, if you have a nice relationship with them and would like to include them in the wedding planning experience, you can still invite them to share the ride with you while keeping other aspects intimate and special. And scoring extra points never hurt anyone either!

If one or both of your in-laws has a hobby, interest, or trade they’re passionate about, loop them into a similar wedding element. If your mother-in-law spends her weekends out in her garden, she’d probably love to join you at your consultation with your florist. Or if your spouse’s parents love to cook or travel the world trying new delicacies, they would probably be thrilled to attend the food tasting with your caterer if you’re allowed to bring guests. Choose some meetings with your vendors that you think would pique their interest. It’ll be fun and they might have something to bring to the table, too.

Host a dinner at your place for your in-laws and spend the night relaxing and having fun together. You can talk about wedding details over dinner and break out into some in-law bonding discussion. This might also be a good time to weigh in on their table seating opinions. They know their family best and can tell you that Uncle Ira and Aunt Esther are still not on speaking terms from The Great Chanukah Fiasco of 1993 when Uncle Ira took the last big chocolate gelt from the netting bag, and, therefore, should not be seated at the same table. The in-laws can also help you in deciding on some of the music your DJ or band should play that would satisfy their generation’s preferences (I know, the Boomers don’t always love Nicki Minaj unless, of course, the little English girls from YouTube are coming to your wedding). And if you really want to be sleuthy, find out their favorite slow dance song and ask your DJ or band to play it for them at the wedding; it’s a nice touch and they’ll plotz.

You’ve probably heard a dozen times that it’s not a good idea to have a whole entourage attend your dress shopping escapades or fittings. Too many opinions make for a stressed out bride. However, including your spouse’s mother at a wedding dress appointment may be a great way to make her feel loved and part of your inner circle. You know her best, though. If you think she’s going to complain or critique your dream dress, leave the broad at home. On the other hand, if she really just wants to share in the joy of seeing you glow in that three-way mirror with hefty chip clips holding you in, it might make for a fun ladies’ day out. This really depends on your overall relationship with her because, as you know, traditionally your dress is sacred and only your most favorite gals get to be a part of this most bridal experience. You be the judge.

Bottomline, you want to bridge the gap between the sets of parents and try to make everyone feel included based on your comfort level. None of this is required. These are simply ideas for fostering already in-tact relationships. Your friendly neighborhood Wedding Yenta is certainly not a family therapist, but these are tactics that have worked for other brides that may also work for you.

At the end of the night, when the high heels are tossed in the corner and the flowers are being disassembled, you’ll have a new set of official family members and wouldn’t it be nice if your in-laws were also your in-loves?

{Real Jewish Weddings} Del Ray Beach, FL

Florida in June is guaranteed to be hot, and the ceremony was outdoors, but despite the heat and humidity, Randi was a stunning bride who never broke a sweat! She looked as perfect at the end of the day as at the beginning. Cream and blush flowers provided a soft, feminine touch to the day. Randi and David began their traditional Jewish wedding with a ketubah signing and incorporated a tallit wrapping in the ceremony as well as a solid ring exchange, and stepping on the glass. Once the ceremony was over, it was time to party. Guests enjoyed table settings that reflected in the huge windows in the early evening light, with the beautiful golf course as a backdrop to the images. Pay close attention to the cake topper! What a cute accessory to add some humor to a day full of love!

Mazel tov, Randi and David!

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Venue: Mizner Country Club
Photographer: 3 Chicks That Click Photography
Floral Designer: J Morgan Flowers
Dress Store: Alfred Angelo
Cake Designer: Publix
Makeup Stylist: Mobile Makeup
DJ: Liquid DJs

Editorial Partner: Two Bright Lights

Michael and Samir Engaged in Washington, D.C.

It’s no secret that The Wedding Yentas blog loves love. Love also does not require explanation or defense. So, while The Wedding Yentas has a catchy, rhyme-y tagline of “A Guide for the Jewish Bride,” everyone should know that The Wedding Yentas is a guide for love… for any bride. Or groom. Totally Jewish. Jew-ish. No religion. Two brides. Two grooms. Whatever!

So today’s a day of firsts on The Wedding Yentas. It’s the first feature of a same-sex AND multicultural couple (two cute fellas! One’s Jewish and the other’s Indian). The Wedding Yentas is a guide for love and commitment, and these two are an adorable example of boy meets boy and fall in love as captured by Jalapeño Photography.

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Two politicos, Michael and Samir, found one another in the melting pot that is Washington, D.C. Michael’s Jewish and from Alaska. Samir’s Indian and from Missouri. Regardless of their differences, once they met, they were inseparable!

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During Michael and Samir’s courtship, they learned a lot about one another and traveled to far flung places. The ebbing and flowing of D.C. politics can be difficult on a relationship, but Michael and Samir weathered it as administrations and jobs changed.

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One night, they began discussing their own future as opposed to politics. At this point, they agreed: Michael and Samir knew they wanted one another!

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Mazel tov, Michael and Samir!

Flower Power: La Petite Gardenia On Designing A Perfect Wedding

Yesterday, the wedding of Brian Autenrieth and Alisan Porter, known for her work as a child actress in hits like Curly Sue and Parenthood, provided some amazing eye candy for all of us to enjoy. It’s no surprise that Alisan, the cute little girl who made us smile, grew up to be a stunning bride. And her handsome groom, Brian, was dashing as a groom should be, and looked so in love and happy to be marrying Alisan.

Their venue, Dormido Diablo, was warm and rustic and provided the most excellent ambiance for tying the knot, but for a wedding, it’s always nice to step it up a notch and that’s where La Petite Gardenia came through to provide delicious and delicate floral design.

We have Alison Franchi, CEO and Lead Designer of La Petite Gardenia, to share the design inspiration for Alisan and Brian’s wedding.

Ali chose a quaint California ranch tucked away in the Santa Monica Mountains. Her theme was feminine, whimsical, and vintage-inspired with lots of David Austin garden rose (her favorite), ranunculus, and hydrangeas.

We worked with a color palette of taupe, grey, blush pink, and cream with accents of birch wood.

Birch wood boxes acted vessels for her whimsy centerpieces which held a variety of garden roses, spray roses, hydrangeas, lisianthus, dusty miller, and berries.

Her bridal bouquet was a lush French-inspired hand bouquet consisting of various David Austin roses, ranunculus, and dusty miller in shades of soft pink, cream, peach, and grey. We finished the look with burlap ribbon, hemp, and pearls to grace the stems of Ali’s bouquet.

The girls carried a lighter shade of soft pinks, white and cream.

It was the perfect array to complement Ali’s lace gown and soft style.

It’s always a treat to see photos of finished projects by La Petite Gardenia, a preferred florist of The Wedding Yentas.

La Petite Gardenia is a botanical art and floral design firm focused on providing unique living art installations for those whose passion for art equals their love of gorgeous flora. Each distinctive creation is rooted in nature and infused with a blend of concept art & interior design that cohesively breathes new life into any environment. CEO and Lead Designer, Alison Franchi, takes pride in offering floral designs that are filled with creativity as well as organic integrity. Featured in several notable publications and commissioned by such diverse powerhouses as Dior, CBS, Lamborghini, and Warner Bros, Alison has also collaborated with acclaimed interior design firms like Room & Board and Modern Home & Living. Currently serving both the East and West Coasts, Alison and her team provide patrons with customized living art developed in La Petite Gardenia‘s signature style – modern, organic innovation that’s truly artistically defined.

  • Jennifer says:

    Absolutely Gorgeous!! I Love love love all of these arrangements. Alison Franchi is amay-zing!

Real Jewish Weddings | Agoura Hills, CA

Alisan Porter, best known for her dazzling talent as Curly Sue, recently wed Brian Autenrieth. The two had been friends for a long and bountiful 13 years and married on March 10, 2012. The happy couple exchanged their vows in front of 100 guests at Diablo Dormido, a historic California ranch tucked in the Santa Monica Mountains. As for wedding-wear, Alison wore a custom vintage-inspired R-Mine lace dress and her bridesmaids wore the Alisan dress by Shareen Vintage made solely for the special occasion. The couple’s first dance was to Frank Sinatra’s, “The Second Time Around.” The song reflected the couple’s own second time around, as they had formerly dated when Alisan was just 18 before reuniting in February of 2011. What’s even more worth celebrating though is Alisan just gave birth to a sweet baby boy! On July 17, 2012 Mason Blaise Autenrieth was brought into the world.

Mazel tov, Alisan and Brian!

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Photographer: Jesse Weiner Photography
Venue: Diablo Dormido
Florist: La Petite Gardenia
Coordinator: Orange Dove Events
DJ: DJ Sasan
Caterer: Dan Molnar featuring Chef Jen Naylor
Bride’s Dress: R-Mine
Bridesmaids Dresses: Shareen Vintage
Photo Booth: Smile Lounge Photo Booth
Bakery/Sweets: Brown Sugar