Shoes! They are like the fun sidekick to our other best friends: diamonds. We gals love our shoes, and shopping for wedding shoes can be fun, but because they’re WEDDING shoes, they carry a little more significance and also require a new set of requirements.
I’m sure I’m not the only one who’s worn a super hot pair of shoes and then hobbled around halfway through the event cursing my feet and hearing them buzz with throbbing pangs at the end of the night. Every time this happens, we say “never again!” and yet, there we are, partying at another event, with leather digging in, or heels tingling with numbness, or toes getting shmushed by straps. Why do we torture ourselves? It’s bad enough we have to hold our pee all night because we have to wear Spanx! (Ok, well I do.).
I’m all about cute shoes, but pain is not a welcome guest on your wedding day.
The last thing you want is distraction from aching sore feet as you enjoy your ceremony and reception. And there’s nothing glamorous about a bride who winces and limps across the dance floor. And simply removing your shoes can be dangerous because your dress will suddenly get longer and you’ll take a trip before your honeymoon even begins.
You want stylish and comfortable? It’s possible! Start your wedding day off on the right (and left) foot: wear the right shoes!
- If you’ve never worn heels before, this is not the time to start. You’ll lose more than Cinderella’s glass slipper at midnight. You’ll lose your balance. And from there, your dignity. And from there… Ok, I will stop. Your wedding day is not the time to play dress up. If you haven’t had practice in any kind of height, you’ll only experience lows.
- Think about your dress. Make sure your doo-dads aren’t fighting. If your dress is enhanced with pearly details, you’ll probably want to stay away from shoes that have lots of bling. They just won’t go. If your dress is ivory and your shoes are white, ehhh, they may not work well together. On the other hand, don’t be afraid to complement your dress with your shoes! A fun pop of color! Lots of blingy shoes for a simple unembellished dress! A cool pattern!
- Think about your groom’s height. If you two are the same height already, you’ll gain some inches on him once you don the heels. Make sure he’s cool with whatever height you become so that you’ll like how your pairing looks in pictures. If you’re already taller than your groom, then this is a non-issue and you go rock those legs, girlfriend!
- If money is an issue, don’t spend a lot or any at all. Shoes aren’t really the focal point of your wedding ensemble. If you’d rather put the cash toward your photographer, you can save a lot by shopping at stores with a large variety or with heavy discounts (try Macy’s, Payless, Aldo Shoes , Shoes.com, Zappos). If shoes are not really that important to you, you could also borrow a pair of shoes from a friend or family member. And there you go, you have our “something borrowed!”
- Be a two-shoe gal! You can always bring a comfy pair of shoes to wear for your reception or when your feet start to kill you. Just make sure they still fit with your dress, taking into consideration the style and the length of your dress. If you must have those hotsy totsy pair of amazing designer shoes for your photos, then I say go for it! Then, when you’re done with them,
send them to meslap on another pair that may be a bit more comfy for your tootsies. Maybe just wait until after the Horah so everyone can see your cute shoes popping out from your dress when you two go up in the chairs.
- If you end up wearing heels, break them in! Before your wedding day, get to know your shoes. Become one with your shoes. Make your shoes your biatch. Basically, your feet should be like, “Ohhhh heeeey! Nice to feel you again! Welcome back! Get on here, you ol whippersnapper, you!” Seriously, if your shoes don’t talk to you, you have bigger problems.
Happy shoe shopping! May your two soles/souls fall in love!